Happiness is Something You Learn

Our ego is created to protect us from pain. We seek out what keeps us comfortable and minimizes our pain. We seek sources for filling the bottomless pit of lack that we feel in certain areas. When we look outside ourselves to fill those voids, nothing is ever enough. We think getting that ONE thing will make us happy, and if we think we’ve found it, we will be happy for a while – until we get a wake-up call. Because it wasn’t ever real to begin with. We thought something worked as a replacement for the lack we felt inside of ourselves – only to later learn that it didn’t perfectly fit – because it was never supposed to.

You can’t be happy until you learn all of this. You can’t be happy until you know you are good enough and that you will survive and pull through no matter what comes your way. You can’t be happy until you accept yourself and love yourself.

That is not something you can pull extra hours at work to obtain. That is not something you can fix with drugs, sex, food or another person’s love.

That is something you learn.

You learn to be happy.

Through all of these lessons, you learn how to be happy. You learn the feeling of accepting yourself, no matter what. You learn to be okay despite whatever horrible things happen. You can’t strive for happiness – you can’t obtain it – you learn it.