Don't Ever Close Your Heart

The Untethered Soul teaches us that when we feel fear, we close our hearts, and love can’t get out or in. It teaches us that no event can hurt us – it is literally all in our minds. We start to close, we let it happen, and then we are just hypnotized by the anger and fear. We do and say things we sometimes don’t mean. The Untethered Soul tells us to practice seeing when that is happening, acknowledging it is happening, and then drop behind the feeling. Do not resist it. Do not fight it. Do not suppress it. That only makes it worse. Understand that the anger is fear, and that your ego is trying to protect you from something. Understand what it really is and then drop behind it and let it go. RIGHT as you start to feel it. You can’t let it engulf you and then expect to let go – it is too late. You have to feel it all the way out. Right when you start, imagine it is some liquid or gas coming out of your heart, out of your body, and you see it there as it tries to attack – and then imagine dropping. You just fall far, far away from it. It is not you. You can detach. You can fall away from it.

I’ve actually practiced this recently, and it helps. I start to get frustrated and angry, and I take a deep breath, I acknowledge the existence of this feeling, I understand what it is and that these feelings simply stem from my own past pain, and I breathe out, imagining myself falling far away from it. Sometimes it tries to get a pinky hold on me, but I keep falling and it finally dissipates.

Nothing is worth closing over. We close when we reject, judge, feel pain or feel fear. We shut things out. We shut out love with these feelings. Always keep your heart open. Always keep your heart open to giving and receiving love. Do not close. The book says we stay open by choosing not to close. Don’t build up the fear. Don’t build up those feelings. Everything is done FOR you, not TO you. Everything is a lesson in life. Everything is an experience for you to grow and conquer fear after fear, until you have none left. Nothing is the end of the world – it is always guiding you to new opportunities or new ways of viewing life. You can choose to fight it if you want, but that’s silly and exhausting. Why would you fight life? You really think you can win? You’d rather sit there in your wounds and fight the never-ending events of life? How long will that last? How broken and beaten will you be when you finally surrender?

You don’t NEED to close. You don’t NEED to feel fear or anger. What good does it do you? Does it make the problem go away? Does it help you deal with the problem? No. It just makes you feel like crap. As I said before, and as Will Smith said, “Danger is very real, but fear is a choice.” I’m not saying you should go about life all naïve and ignorant. I’m just saying don’t feel fear and don’t act out of fear. Do your research, take precautions, but once you’re smack in the middle of something, fear is only going to screw you up. It has no valid purpose. It keeps you from acting. There are better ways to handle things than acting out of fear. Break free from the chains of fear.

Let go and open your heart. Have the strength to be vulnerable and honest, and good things will come to you.